I was interviewed by my dear friend Allana Pratt today for her sexy moms series and we had the most delicious conversation about playing a bigger game in your life, despite the challenges of the everyday.
While I was the one being interviewed, it was just what I needed!
So often, when we find ourselves sharing our advice with someone else, it turns out to be exactly what we need to hear ourselves.
Today, it was about how not to get sucked into the common thinking of lack, limitation and scarcity.
To some degree, lack, limitation and scarcity is my baseline, passed on to me by my genetic code. So, it’s a constant internal battle to keep my small mind at bay and stay focused on the higher truth I know is reality.
Especially when the more I shine my light, the more people show up in my life who seem to believe they are entitled to a share of what I’ve been building.
As my energy rises, I’m aware of the people who are showing up, specifically it seems, to pull that energy down.
If I allow it, I could easily be sucked into the common thinking that tells me I’m being taken advantage of, ripped off, walked all over or that I should battle to the end for what is rightfully mine.
But, that’s not who I am. I am love. And so long as I can stay in the awareness of that, I can continue to shine brightly undulled by the clouds of negativity.
So, how do I do it?
I read. I listen. I go within.
Here are some of my favorite resources for staying immersed in the awareness of what’s real even when (especially when) I’m dealing with major challenges that make my mind/ego want to fight for its life:
Spiritual Liberation, by Michael Bernard Beckwith
Broken Open, by Elisabeth Lesser
Loving What Is, by Byron Katie
I read uplifting Tweets posted by people like @kendrathornbury and @TheEntertainer
And I set up a column in Tweetdeck for people who inspire me, uplift me and make me smile with their joyousness (like @barefoot_exec, @unmarketing, @perrybelcher, @marismith, @feelgoodguru, @lotusamy and @mediastarr and the folks who post their morning gratitude at #amgrat, celebrate their manifestations each evening at #pmceleb, express their gratitude all day long at #gratx and spread the love at #loverage) and anytime I’m feeling low energy during the day, I can look to that column for a little pick me up.
And, I get quiet.
When I find myself feeling put upon, taken advantage of, overburdened or overwhelmed, I walk away. I read something True or put on my headphones and listen to a recording. Then, I sit quietly. And I wait for the awareness of the Truth to permeate my soul and once again radiate through me.
I’m the same but polar opisite in that I’m trying to educate people on what’s happening so they can be prepared…just got the site up and was inspired by losing the America I love…her constitution and power by the people. It’s not just an American problem the whole world partook…When you go as deep down as I did it’s ugly and dark…but we need to turn the axis of the world..just tilt it a little from evil back to good……So I am immered in the dark side while trying to bring light…….do u understand?……I had a bad accident and died…..a couple of my friends on this journey have too….and we feel driven and pushed…But my kids are grown now and when I was where you are one of my favorite things to do besides watch storms and hummingbirds with them…was to have a picnic under the aspens,watching their leaves twinkle and look for shapes in the clouds…..It was a wonderful time….Experience each day anew for the love of ur children and special place here on earth..peace
Hi Alexis..I have just updated my webpage “see how their lights are shining” when I found this post. Brilliant! and so true. Me too need that quiet moments to recharge. I find your idea of keeping special twitter posts aside for uplifting moments very good – something everyone should do (thanks).
It is so true that every interaction with people either takes or gives energy. When people come to you to ‘take’ it is because they sense something in you that they don’t have…perhaps your calmness, friendliness, humor, ..etc.. inspires them to feel better. Of course giving is draining ones energy…because in the process of giving one is building, fixing, influencing, helping, guiding, teaching… and trying to do the act of giving day by day would bring much damage and worst end up in a nervous breakdown UNLESS you’ve learned how to recharge. Alexis, and you have find a way to go within and that is why you will have a constant flow of energy to reach out and to give. Thank you for sharing that with everybody. Take care and God bless!
This quote sums up why I do what I do –
“So often, when we find ourselves sharing our advice with someone else, it turns out to be exactly what we need to hear ourselves.”
For me, Self Esteem Queen is not just a “name” it’s my way of life. I follow you for the same reason you follow others. Thank YOU for being an inspiration.
Dawn The SEQ
Yes! Common thinking and a victim mentality are an epidemic these days. I also find the best advice I give to others is what I need most myself. Beautiful post. I just found you today. I’ll be back.
Good Morning Alexis,
This was such a delightful post to read on many levels today.
First, it was great to see your mention of your interview with Allana Pratt. I am familiar with her work and have connected with her via FB and twitter. She is such a luminous source of empowerment for women, especially mothers who have big visions for their lives. It is not surprising to see that the two of you are connected.
Next, I relished the wonderful list of resources you mentioned, most of which I also refer to for inspiration and renewal. I have yet to see Spiritual Liberation but I know it is in my very near future much because of your multiple mentions of it over the last few weeks – not a coincidence I’m sure. 🙂
And finally, I was very honored to see my name listed among those you feel provide uplifting energy via twitter. That has certainly been my intention. So it means alot to hear that I have had a positive impact on your journey in some way. Your idea of #amgrat and #pmceleb is such a brilliantly simple yet profound one and I so enjoy participating.
Thank you for all you do and for your continued commitment to shining your light with each new day!
On twitter @LotusAmy
What a lovely and practical post about how to go about not getting sucked into common thinking. I had that problem last night, and ended up with my Eckhart Tolle book, in the bathtub at 1 in the morning!
It helps to have resources to turn to, on twitter and in person and in book! Especially when there is so much negativity around us.
I so honored to be on your Tweetdeck list of people who inspire you, uplift you and make you smile!
From the moment we met until now, I count you as a woman of profound integrity, huge substance and much heart – your wardrobe is pretty HOT too 🙂
I can wait for what we’ll cook up together in November – I know it seems like a lifetime away, but another admirable quality about you is that you plan ahead and take massive action!
Until then… See ya on Twitter (or TV…you’re a real Media STARR)
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I'm the same but polar opisite in that I'm trying to educate people on what's happening so they can be prepared…just got the site up and was inspired by losing the America I love…her constitution and power by the people. It's not just an American problem the whole world partook…When you go as deep down as I did it's ugly and dark…but we need to turn the axis of the world..just tilt it a little from evil back to good……So I am immered in the dark side while trying to bring light…….do u understand?……I had a bad accident and died…..a couple of my friends on this journey have too….and we feel driven and pushed…But my kids are grown now and when I was where you are one of my favorite things to do besides watch storms and hummingbirds with them…was to have a picnic under the aspens,watching their leaves twinkle and look for shapes in the clouds…..It was a wonderful time….Experience each day anew for the love of ur children and special place here on earth..peace