You’ve heard the saying, right?
If you love something, set it free. If it comes back to you, it’s yours.
God, I believe in that. Oh yes, down to the bottom of my toes, I believe in it.
I’ve even experienced it in my own life. A lot. 5 years ago, I set my husband free (and a whole house full of stuff I loved) and now 5 years later, it’s all back.
In case you are new here, I moved to Colorado at the beginning of January and my ex-husband moved with me. He’s living with me and the kids. And that meant all his stuff came too. And his stuff was my stuff that I left behind when I moved out 5 years ago. Seeing it again was trippy and fun.
So I KNOW it’s true. I’ve experienced it.
And yet, it still comes up for me. I want to hold on to what I love. Grasp it tight. Squeeze it to me and never let go. And definitely never share it with anyone else.
Fortunately these days, I can recognize it. Become aware of it. And not emotionally react to it.
Once I see the pattern I can make a choice of how to be.
Like right now it’s coming up for me about a gal I absolutely adore. Chelsea Moser. I love her. She’s my protegee (two things about that: 1) I feel totally and completely pretentious saying that and yet it is how I feel and I hope she is not weirded out by that and 2) the dictionary said that you spell the woman version of protege with two “e”s, thus the two “e”s).
And suddenly Chelsea’s working with all these other women in the online world. Andrea Lee. Tina Forsyth. Ciara Daykin. And then I heard she was talking with Sarah Robinson the other day; so she could be next.
Let me say this before I say anything else – each of these women is a woman I adore, support, honor, respect, trust, work with, and believe in to the depths of my soul.
And yet, I want to hoard Chelsea. Seeing her work with all these other amazing women makes me scared. Maybe if she sees how amazing they are, she won’t want to work with me anymore. Maybe she’ll stop having time for my projects.
But, I won’t let those patterned fear thoughts run my life. Instead, I will recognize the pattern and break it by:
1. Talking about it here (even though this is really, really, really, REALLY hard for me to do)
2. Trusting that Chelsea will work with me if that serves her life and if it doesn’t, she won’t. Trust that everything is always unfolding exactly as it should for my highest good and the evolution of my soul. And trust that I will always have everything I need (not necessarily everything I want) and I never need to hoard or hold on to anything too tightly.
Yes, when I remember that, I can breathe and relax and be. It feels good.
In my experience, the saying should go a little differently … it’s not about what comes back to you.
If you love something, someone, some …, set it free.
And then you will be free too.
In the end, it’s about your own freedom really.