Finding a Different Way – From Workaholism to Eden and Birthing a New Paradigm

It’s been a week since I’ve been back from the retreat I attended with Russell and the kids at Eden Hot Springs.

There has been so much I’ve wanted to share, but I’m really being conscious about the amount of time I’m spending behind the computer so I have not had nearly enough time to write to say it all.

I made a video that is at the very least, a good start.

It’s about my journey from workaholism to Eden and birthing a new paradigm.

I’d love to hear from you about what’s shifting for you around life and business and awakening?ย  Leave me a comment and let me know.


  1. Steve C ThomasWednesday, October 20, 2010 at 3:33 pm 

    Interesting, Alexis. I heard you on Blogcastfm’s interview with Srini Rao. You sounded very focused then. I wonder if you can cut back as you say in this video and not go crazy. It is so hard to go against our nature. Perhaps where you have been has not been your true nature. If that is the case then this will be fairly easy. If it is, I think it will be much tougher.

    I will be interested to see how it turns out!

  2. Karri FlatlaFriday, October 22, 2010 at 4:46 am 

    As a mompreneur like yourself and of the same generation I found this to be very moving, Alexis. I really FEEL what you’re saying here. Keep talkin’ your way through it. It’s a message that needs to be heard … at this eye-to-eye, heart-to-heart level.


  3. MichelleFriday, October 22, 2010 at 2:19 pm 

    Way to go, Alexis! Thanks for sharing and for being so open. I find you to be so inspiring. Best of luck on your journey and you have my support!

  4. JanetFriday, October 22, 2010 at 2:52 pm 

    This is good news for the soul. I’m all over that! However, what if you don’t have the systems in place? Like when you are starting in a new career direction while transitioning out of the old income earning career. And the challenge to accept the shift in productivity that occurs when you surrender to a different paradigm. Without outside support systems!

  5. Shirley SukhanilFriday, October 22, 2010 at 3:24 pm 

    Alexis, this is so beautifully said. I so enjoyed you being you, in your pj’s and not showered with no need to be done up =) Your sharing is helping me have faith that I too can find a new way. that it is possible to be successful in work AND in my in-person relationships AND with my-Self. this is a STRETCH. your candid sharing of your desire to have that in your life and also the struggle internally to have that be, that helped me realize I’m not the only one who struggles internally to have this come into existence. Thank you for putting it all out there… edits, perfectionism for where you are, and beauty in your truth.

  6. MeghanFriday, October 22, 2010 at 3:32 pm 

    The women who need to hear this will not stop to listen! I am building my business while putting boundaries in place so I can be present with my children, family and take care of me. I am not doing well in taking care of myself but am terrified I will not be successful enough in my business by having these boundaries and be unable to support my family. Everyone will say you need to be 24/7 as you build your business. I too hope that I can bust the belief system but I do not have any money to fall back on so it is truly been a leap of faith at every junction. But God is good! Thank you for being raw. I feel like I look as you did today everyday plus I still have the baby weight (somehow raw thin seems better than raw pudgy). You are doing good girl. Take heart and stay strong.

  7. Amy MiyamotoFriday, October 22, 2010 at 4:13 pm 

    Alexis you are a courageous pioneer is so many ways. As I find myself on a similar path of self-discovery(compelled to shed the broken paradigm) I am frequently faced with the fear and doubt that comes from carving out a new road (new way of being in the world). Yet the flame of your light continues to reassure me I am on the right track. Thank you my dear. ๐Ÿ˜‰ Amy

  8. Robert GallianoFriday, October 22, 2010 at 4:39 pm 


  9. AnonymousFriday, October 22, 2010 at 4:42 pm 

    You got my support! Working all the time does not maximize your contribution to the world, it stunts it.

    And can I just say that your just-woke-up-no-shower self is glowing and beautiful?


  10. Tami SmithFriday, October 22, 2010 at 4:50 pm 

    Adorable ending on this video with the editing ๐Ÿ™‚ Love that you don’t know what “perfect” is anymore. I’ve been questioning the same thing. I can’t define myself and success the same way I did a few years ago. My shift started when I realized everything I do is out of a need for approval. Not just from others, but self-approval. I’m in the process of letting go of everything I thought defined me and it scares the hell out of me! Thanks for having the courage to share the way you did. It inspires me more than I can express.

  11. Karen TalaveraFriday, October 22, 2010 at 5:43 pm 

    Good for you! Get out from behind the monitors more :). My ultimate definition of business success is creating leveraged systems that produce passive income so I can get out from behind a computer as much as possible and do what I love: travel, teach (face to face) and enjoy life in the 3D world!

    BTW, you look great without makeup.

  12. Leslie Friday, October 22, 2010 at 10:07 pm 

    I applaud you for your paradigm shift. I am drawn to your transparency and authenticity and this evolution in you apparent in your blog/newsletters is probably the only reason I invested in learning anything “business.” ๐Ÿ™‚ So thank you for helping shift and balance my own paradigm. Do you have advice for those of us who may have made this paradigm shift early on…I know what I want…and it is indeed to be present with my children and loved ones, my clients, my business, be happy, etc…but I made the realization that money is a necessity (and quite frankly a desire) later because I come from a family of spiritual self-sacrificers and genuine do good-ers who were applauded for their way of sacrificing themselves for a “higher” cause (which was definitely not money or wealth). I feel like I am working my life almost backwards from the way (what I know of yours) flowed and would love to hear your thoughts for those of us how are trying to take a more balanced approach right out of the gate and may not have the funds immediately to make “mistakes” without dragging our family into a state of survival…in other words do you think I have to utilize the workaholic/masculine energy first in order to then come back into balance? Or do you believe balance and wealth can be built at the same time? I think I’m asking because I’m getting nervous that the balanced life I’ve feel I’m setting up my not produce the financial outcome I desire thus putting that balance in danger again. Thank you for any thoughts regarding this. Again, I am so happy and grateful for you…I know you must feel so so naked right now but there are people who know that we will all be “transparent” in the next few decades whether we like it or not so thank you for being an example of evolution now. Peace, Leslie

  13. AnnFriday, October 22, 2010 at 11:37 pm 

    Alexis you are soooo beautiful. Thank you for your courage to post your “real feelings” and experience about taking a new step to be Present with your family and the people you love. Workaholic behavior is rewarded in our society. And as an entrepreneur building a business, I have a bit of it as well. I networked myself into the ground over the past 2 weeks, and rationalized it all. I haven’t been spending the time I would like to with my family or my primary relationship….Thanks for the reminder to slow down and enjoy each minute of this precious journey. Love Love YOUโ€”Ann

  14. AndieSaturday, October 23, 2010 at 5:09 am 

    Alexis, you really touched me with your authenticity. Thank you for being so courageous, generous, and raw in exposing your realizations. So many resonated with me. I have been on a couple of your live calls before and seen a video or two … I feel like I got to see a deeper side of you and I know that by honoring and speaking your truths you will find a new and more rewarding experience of success. With love and appreciation!

  15. Jim AbrahamSaturday, October 23, 2010 at 5:50 pm 

    Alexis, Awesome!!! For the first time, I thought you were real.

    Jim Abraham

  16. Stoney McGeeSunday, October 24, 2010 at 5:22 am 

    The ‘unpolished’ you looks so much more radiant and attractive than ever before. I can hardly believe you would be self-conscious or think people would prefer you with make up, considering how much more presentable, I think, you come off as your full self. Just WOW. I can’t believe how much it makes a difference, but it really does.

    About editing: I think it is actually the perfectionist in you that is saying that you need to edit out all of your editing LOL. However, we are very similar in our ‘all or nothing’ ways, so I definitely can relate.

    You are a living example of ever-blossoming consciousness, and your journey is so very beautiful, I feel intensely grateful to witness it. Thank you so much for sharing.

  17. ManishaThakorMonday, October 25, 2010 at 6:53 am 

    Double ditto-ing Pam on all fronts. So mentally high-five-ing you, Alexis. Way to be successfully, authentically, seriously-gorgeously YOU. xoxo, M

  18. Chuck KissรฉeSaturday, October 30, 2010 at 3:14 pm 

    Far beyond the Alexis I met at SCI in San Diego 5 years ago. Much more peace within you. And this lights you up. Live with Intention. ๐Ÿ˜‰ Chuck

  19. Marie-JeanneThursday, November 4, 2010 at 5:18 am 

    10 a.m. to 4 p.m. Yes!

    Here’s my hand. Grab hold when the going gets tough. I extend the same to all of us women and men who are recovering from workaholism, perfectionism, and more “isms.”

    Try this tomorrow for exercise and more kid time – that is if there is no snow:) Ride your bike to school with your kid. Well, my kid rides the scooter and I ride the bike so I can bring the scooter back home in a backpack. Lots of fun for us both. Felt like a kid again, and was NOT at my desk!

    Oh yeah, you look and sound more real – and beautiful inside and out – in this video than I’ve seen in the past ๐Ÿ™‚

  20. Forma-vieThursday, November 4, 2010 at 5:56 pm 

    Good day Alexis,

    I understand that your are at that point of authenticity in your life, like “I want to reveal my tru self” and the hell with those who don’t understand it…

    And….may I ask, do you have a marketing coach? ๐Ÿ™‚
    If not, maybe it would be a good idea.

    It is possible be so very real with you tribe AND reach out to ALL those you are meant to serve….

    Have a great day.

  21. massage napervilleSunday, January 15, 2012 at 1:08 am 

    Very interesting. I wonder what my history teacher would say! But great application.

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