Are You Really Ready For It?

The path to freedom isn’t easy.  It requires a breaking free of patterns and conditioning that have been ingrained over centuries.  Ancestral patterns handed down from one generation to the next.

It requires being willing to look at the things you’ve spent your entire life avoiding.

It requires being willing to acknowledge what you really want.  What you really, really, really, really, really want.  The thing you pretend you don’t really want that badly.

It requires being willing to speak your truth, even when it feels nearly impossible to do it because it’s too mean, harsh, confrontational our outlandish.  And it means finding a way to speak that truth from a place of compassion and love.

If your life is good and you are happy and things are going pretty well, you may not want to get on the road to freedom.  It can be a difficult road to travel.

Harder than you think.

But, if you relate to any of these things, it’ll be worth it.  I can promise you, it’s so worth it.  You will not do anything more important in your life.

  • Lost, confused, can’t understand how you got here
  • Thought you were on the right path
  • Doing what you were supposed to do and wham-o you look around you and are like “huh?” How did this happen? How’d I get so stuck?
  • Unresolved conflicts with family, friends, co-workers, employees
  • Not being heard, felt seen
  • No one seems to get you
  • May seem okay on the outside, but on the inside it’s ugly

Maybe you’ve heard there’s nowhere to go, just be where you are.

But what happens when that sucks?  Then what?

What happens when your mind is screaming, ” But, I don’t want to just be where I am.  This is not the life I signed up for.”

Sure, you can resign yourself to it, but fuck that.  Why?  This is your life.  The one life you have (or at least the one you are having now and the only one you’ll remember), so why settle for anything less than total freedom?

No matter how difficult the journey is, it’s so totally and completely worth it.


  1. Samantha FlickFriday, April 9, 2010 at 7:33 pm 

    It IS so difficult & SO worth it. The best part is once you've overcome the first heart-wrenching moments of honesty with yourself and have started taking the steps to fully acknowledge and accept everything you've been avoiding for as long as you remember, it's all down hill from there! It isn't easy, but for me, the hardest part is over and everything that has is following naturally is only moving me farther along in my journey and I am enjoying the ride. Even me saying stuff like this is really difficult and embarrassing for me (I would have labeled this cheesy/trite/ridiculous/self-important and never posted it only a few months ago), but it turns out, according to the Scientific American, people who talk about serious things more often are happier than those who mostly make small talk (talk about unimportant things). I don't sound nearly as clever or relatable (read: cynical) when I am being genuine, but expressing my true feelings (without NEEDING to use self-deprecating humor to MAKE SURE everyone knows I don't take myself TOO seriously)…well, it's a huge release and it reinforces the fact that I am worthy of my own feelings, and it is SO rewarding just embracing the freedom to be 100% ME 100% of the time.

  2. shannonramiroFriday, April 9, 2010 at 7:46 pm 

    This is a great post! I have just gone through the worst 6 months of my life and yet I feel stronger and more self-assured than I have in years. I am changing direction in my business after finding a way that I can go after what I care about the most, Special Education and Special Needs Families without a Master's Degree. As I take steps in this direction I feel so aligned, centered and truly alive. I no longer want to find myself in a place where I feel held back from achieving my dreams and making the difference in the world I want to make.

    It is through the bad times, recently and in the past, that I have found the closest connections to my truth. I learned in bits and pieces, and am still learning, what I truly want in this short life on Earth. Had I avoided the places that felt like a dark abyss at the time I wouldn't have found my truth. I would have also shortchanged the people who I know feel very equipped to help.

    Just keep doing what you are doing! I know many people pay attention to what you have to say.


  3. morgandaycecilFriday, April 9, 2010 at 11:08 pm 

    No, the path to freedom isn't easy, but isn't comforting knowing I'm not the only one crying out behind close doors.

    Deep down I too know, “No matter how difficult the journey is, it’s so totally and completely worth it.” But there are hours I spend being controlled by the less faithful voices.

    That's why one of the most empowering beliefs I've adopted is this:
    The only failure is quitting. Keep your eye on your biggest dream. Manuever around every obstacle with your vision set ahead. Be willing to “fail” a thousand times on your way. You will get there, No Doubts.

    And I think of this quote of Corbett Bar's often: “It's a long road ahead (so choose a beautiful one).”

    Thanks for–AGAIN–opening up to us Alexis and sharing the vulnerable places. Your making all of us feel more at home. 😉

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